ELL and she ( six things about her ) !

There lies a magical corridor in the second floor of St. Xavier’s College. It begins with the room number 55 and ends with two beautifully decorated adjacent walls. Between the beginning and the end, lies a special room which is immensely known for radiating the kind, compassionate vibes of a family, love and care. And, now the question arises, why on earth I am suddenly talking of all these. Ah ! We have been there. My blog, my rules. 

Nothing is built out of thin air, you need years of nurturing, toiling with the precise accuracy to create the foundation for such warmth. Yes, I am talking about her and it’s her day. The person who had the deepest significance on my course of life and continues to do so in every possible way. Cutting off the further details, I choose to unveil some secrecy which I had held deep down in my heart for a long time and open up to the people and wish to share few more things. 

6 things which I imbibed ( wish to imbibe or still trying to imbibe ) from her:

1. Be stubborn. 

If you are feeling right about something, do it,  even if the people around you feel differently. Stick to your plan. Don’t ever budge off. 

We would often chat about it. And, I remember I had taken some decisions impulsively without taking consultations from the people around. And, I was stressed, I told her slowly, “I think I am way too stubborn. I should learn to be a bit flexible.”

She just smiled to that. Took a pause, and said “what do I expect out of Sagittarius people. Stubborn they are !”

I have been lucky enough to hear some of her stories about her early days of ELL department, how she steered it like a lone wolf and created a space whose legacy and students needs no formal introduction now. 

2.  Be a listener

Oh ! This has come out of all the metaphorically therapeutical sessions she took of me. It was then when I sincerely fell for the habit of non-judgemental listening. She is one of the most patient listeners you would ever meet. I could go on and on about my random rambling which would range from anything to everything, and she would listen to all of it. Patiently, without showing an ounce of lack of interest. 

I wanted to be like that to someone. It has an aura of healing. 

It is exactly this which makes me feel proud when someone compliments me for being  a ‘good listener’. And, I just know, how I got that trait within me.

3. No harm in being an explorer.

A travel aficionado, she loves wandering. Hopping places, meeting people and and exploring. 

It is not unusual of her to say “I feel like catching the train and going to some unexplored places. What if I die tomorrow ?”, that too in very plain non apologetic tone.

And, I and Anita Ma’am would look  at each other and later at her, wondering whether she just said what we just heard. 

She would be like “Kya ! I feel like going to an unannounced tour.”

I want to be like that, someday. 


4. Being unconventional

In this orthodox, how cool is it to be unconventional. I remember that day, once our placement drive got over and we were preparing for our rural immersion programme and one of our friends got us beer to celebrate. I was reluctant ( First timer, you see ). Although, I didn’t wish to look prude to my friends but somehow I managed to send her a pic of the beverage with it in my hand. And her reply was
“Go ahead !”

That was so cool.

Another of the instance was when I had some assignments and I was talking to her over phone about some advertisement and its significance. And few friends were with me, and as we ended up our conversation, she would pull my leg about whom I am with, so late at night. And, that made me chuckle. I had to convince her they are ‘just friends’ and it was so fun.

No, don’t mistake it for leniency. I have been scolded enough for things I did wrong. She has left no stone unturned to make me realise my mistakes hard way. 

But, the point is. The combination of it is just too good to be true. I already feel blessed while writing this stuff. 

5. Poetries

Very few people know that, she writes. And, she writes like water. You could read each lines like you can see through the clean surface of water. She was one of my inspirations behind writing several of mines.

6. Understands love

Being a naive I am. I am not untouched by whirlwinds of emotions. But having someone who could look at my messed up situations with fresh perspective and clarity works wonders in gaining some rationality. Every time I have been caught up in fences of emotions ( and that is quite frequent ) which include, love, attachment, jealously, insecurities, infatuation, I was blessed to have a mentor to sort things out for me. She is the Arnold Schwarzenegger to my character of John Connor. ( Terminator:3  reference ) Saving me every single time. :D

Not just that. Those who know her well enough would certainly agree to the fact that she and sir gives us a some solid relationship goals. I have never seen any relationship who could be more natural than theirs. The blend, the threads, the bond which holds them is just more than perfect. Every time I see them, I set up a mental benchmark for things I could possible have ( or possibly not ) but certainly not less when it comes to love.

That’s it folks. I stop here. 

It makes me feel so light to write it out all here. I wish it to be somebody, someday, what she is to me, today. Because, I know how it feels to be lost and found, and understand the fact that there is nothing wrong in being lost.